Lindsay here. While Kristin has been freelance full-time since we graduated, I've always had a full-time job in advertising. I know a lot of you bosses have been or are in the same situation as I am. You know the struggles of feeling like you're doing #allthethings...because you are!
I have to admit, that I am one of the lucky ones. I truly love what I do both in my day job and my side hustle. But, it can be really hard to love either of them when your personal life starts to suffer because of it.
Set your priorities.
What has helped me to maintain my sanity has been prioritizing what parts of my personal life are most important to me. My absolute number one is my relationships. My family and friends will always come first. When I know in advance that I'm going into a crazy week with one or both of my jobs, the life things I will refuse to cancel is my time with my peeps.
But trying to fill your time ONLY with your number one priority may not feel like much of a personal life. So, I keep a short list of four to five of the most important aspects I want to maintain in my person life. General downtime, happy hour, and working out (GASP!) all make that list for me. When a spare moment pops up unexpectedly, I try to fit another one of my priorities in.
Take a timed breather.
The balancing act doesn't just affect how you feel about your personal life. When your day job has a rough day, it can be hard to bounce back for your side hustle. My work on Four Oh Seven starts every evening when I get home from work, so if work was awful that day it can be tempting to sulk over a bottle of wine and Netflix rather than dive into a round two. But when I cave in and ignore the work, I always just feel guilty and don't ever fully calm down! So, how do I solve it? Well, I do a bit of both.
I give myself a set period of time to wind down before I dive into the work. It's OKAY to take that breather. When I let myself do this without stressing about it, I find I don't need nearly as much time to re-energize as I expect. This compromise has saved me from quite a few wasted nights.
Have a mantra.
When all else fails and you can't fully balance it all, try to have a mantra that can help stabilize you. Write it on a sticky note. Keep it on your phone. Say it in the mirror. Whatever it is that works for you. I use a few mantras and a lot of times they become #lettersbylindsay posts on the blog later. The power of encouraging words can be both comforting and grounding.
Listen to your gut.
In the end, all you can really do is listen to your gut. It KNOWS when you're pushing yourself too hard. Don't be afraid to take care of yourself when your gut is crying out to you. And most of all, don't get so caught up in the work you sacrifice the life you aim to live.